Having trouble with a female in your life?
Pay attention to their age, and it will disclose where the issue for YOU.
If a young girl, your issue with yourself is paying attention to your inner child. If the female is between 20 and 40, consider that the problem has to do with mothering/nurturing, and if she is over 50, then you need to pay attention to the wise woman/crone aspect of your higher self.
Where do I get this idea? I dunno. I am sure it is out there somewhere.